The Daily Weight of the Wait

Aaron and Reed dated and saw a long term future with one another and as a next step Reed wanted to get married, while Aaron wanted to start a family. Aaron was in her early thirties and admits she was ready to start a family the day Reed proposed, but instead they proceeded with a wedding and then focused on a family. After a number of years of infertility which included fertility tests, miscarriage, uterine surgery, and the search for a balance between medical and natural remedies, Aaron and Reed found they were pregnant naturally and went on to have a healthy baby girl.

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The Perspective of a Midwife: Sitting in the Gray of TTC, Infertility & Miscarriage

Carla studied nursing in college, found energy and comfort in the labor and delivery unit, and was inspired to become a midwife. She has been practicing as a Registered Nurse and a Certified Nurse Midwife for over 13 years. She is passionate about women’s journeys to pregnancy, birth, and motherhood, and has 4 daughters of her own. She shares her perspective as a midwife on trying to conceive, infertility, and miscarriage through this Q&A series.

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Growth in Periods of Wait: A Reflection on Primary and Secondary Infertility

Now in her mid 50s with three teenage sons, Deb looks back on her journey with primary and secondary infertility. Deb and her husband Jon got married at age 30 and decided to start trying to have a family a few years later. They both knew they wanted to have several children so they spent the next decade focused on growing their family. She recalls the feelings of despair and the race against time as their journey extended beyond her 40th birthday. Deb has a strong faith and reflects on how God used this period of wait to change Deb’s heart and help her grow personally and spiritually.

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Sixth Time's the Charm - IVF Failures & Success

Anne and her husband Kyle tried to have a family without success for four years. With no clear infertility diagnosis, they tried a number of medical interventions including Clomid, Femara, IUIs and IVF. Anne also sought out a number of holistic therapies including acupuncture, mayan abdominal massage, physical therapy focused on visceral manipulation, and a strict elimination diet. After multiple IUIs and six rounds of IVF, they saw their first and only positive pregnancy test.

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Up Against the Clock: Growing a Family in Your Forties

Meghan and her husband Rick met in their late thirties and started trying to have a family as soon as they got engaged. With no success getting pregnant naturally and poor fertility numbers they moved on to IVF. They tried one round of IVF with their own egg and sperm at a local clinic followed by 3 additional rounds with donor eggs at a national clinic. With no success, they reimagined their view of parenting and opened their hearts to adoption.

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From the Colorado Clinic to the Bedroom

Becky and Marty sought out fertility care in Switzerland while traveling between between Europe and the states for Marty’s hockey career. After being diagnosed with low combined fertility, they spent a season doing IUIs without success. At the recommendation of their doctor, they decided to proceed with IVF, and arranged an accelerated cycle during the off season in the states before Marty’s next season. The cycle was successful and Becky gave birth to their daughter in Germany the following spring. To their surprise - completely naturally with no interventions - they welcomed a second daughter into their family two years later.

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To Everything There Is A Season

Cathy and Brian built a family of five over the course of 15 years. They are a unique couple because all three of their children have come to them in different ways: medical intervention and fertility treatments, adoption, and a refreshing natural surprise at the end. Over 30 years after their fertility journey began, they started leading an infertility church group to walk with couples currently on their journey to build a family.

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Tips for a Fertility Journey that Requires Medical Intervention - From a Couple of Women

Olivia and her wife Kate knew they wanted to have a child, so shortly after getting married they began their fertility journey. As a gay couple interested in pursuing biological children, their journey required medical intervention. They decided to begin their journey with Kate as she is older, but after nearly 2 years without success they shifted their focus to Olivia. With experience navigating two fertility journeys that required medical interventions, they look back and offer tips and recommendations to others heading down a fertility journey that requires medical intervention.

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Finding the Joy in Plan G - The Search for the Right Egg Donor

Bethany and Ryan decided to start trying to have a family in 2013 when they were in their late 20s. They struggled with two miscarriages and the news that Bethany suffers from diminished ovarian reserve, which is an egg quality issue. After discussing their options with a reproductive endocrinologist and each other, they decided to pursue a known egg donor. They explored a number of family options which fell through and eventually moved forward with a close friend as their donor, who they refer to as ‘Donor G’, for Godsend. After over 3 years of trying, they welcomed their daughter into the world in the spring of 2016.

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Finding No Heartbeat: Loss, Healing & Hope Following Miscarriage

Nikki and her husband Kevin were excited to see their first positive pregnancy test one Father’s Day sever years ago. When they went in for their 10 week appointment no heartbeat was found and they were told the baby had stopped progressing. Taking into account input from their OB, Nikki and Kevin had to decide how they wanted to move forward - either wait to miscarry at home or schedule a D&C. Nikki’s is a story of experiencing miscarriage and navigating it with her husband, growing extended family, and her faith.

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Building and Overturning an Adults Only Life

Ellisa had painful menstrual cycles and shoulder pain since her cycle began. In high school her OB told her it may be difficult to get pregnant, but it wasn’t a primary concern until she got married at age 30 and was ready for a family. After numerous procedures, surgeries and waiting, her doctor confirmed she suffered from stage 4 endometriosis. She adopted an anti-inflammatory diet, sought out a naturopath, enrolled in an IVF warranty program and regained the control she felt she had lost.

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Natural Mourning & Adopting Hope

Paris endured two natural miscarriages before welcoming her daughter Payton into the world. A year after their daughter was born Paris and her husband Jeremy decided to starting trying for a second child as they knew it may take some time. Paris struggled with secondary infertility and had three subsequent ectopic pregnancies, which resulted in the loss and removal of both of her fallopian tubes. Jeremy and Paris are now on the path to adoption in hopes of welcoming a second child into their family.

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The Other Side of the Rainbow

After struggling with two miscarriages, Alanna and her husband David found they were pregnant for a third time. The pregnancy progressed normally until they were told at their anatomy ultrasound that their growing baby had a condition that was not conducive with life. Shortly thereafter, their son Roo Emmanuel fleeted through this world. A year later they welcomed a healthy daughter into the world, and after another miscarriage, they continue to try to grow their family.

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